December 11, 2010
Even With a New Little Man in Your Life, Don’t Forget About the Big Guy: Preparing Your Man for Fatherhood
For most couples, receiving the confirmation that they are about to become parents is among the most thrilling moments in their entire lives. It brings with it a world of emotions, ranging from excitement and joy to anxiety and fear.
When receiving such news, women are usually tempted to go into high-speed preparation mode, driving straight from the doctor’s office to the shopping mall to start picking out gender-neutral baby clothes and toys. Women often dream of becoming mothers their entire lives and are ready to jump head-first into the pool of motherhood. They begin to think constantly about “the baby” and the fact that they are finally about to start a family. Men sometimes experience this news in a way that is a bit more hesitant. Though there is no doubt that they will be just as excited and thrilled as the ladies in their lives, it’s possible that they’ll feel quite a bit of fear, too. They may feel completely lost when it comes to the topic of how to be a father, never having spent time really thinking about what they had to do.
This is why, girls, you have to help your man prepare to become a father. Take note of these four simple ways to support him without being pushy:
1. Buy Him a Book Chances are you’ve picked up a few pregnancy and baby books for yourself, so why not do the same for your husband or boyfriend? A bit of reading will help him to answer the questions he does have and ease the concerns he should have. He may not feel comfortable voicing all of his worries with you, so reading is a good way for him to find out some information on his own.
2. Find Him Some Father Friends Your man’s single buddies may not cut it when it comes to finding someone he can confide in and talk to about becoming a father. And while you are sure to support him, you can’t completely understand. If he doesn’t have any friends that are fathers, try to introduce him to some acquaintances that are. Without being too pushy, encourage him to talk to them about what it’s like to be a dad and ask them for some insider advice.
3. Pay Him Attention When you get pregnant, all of the attention turns towards you and the baby. Your husband or boyfriend may feel a little left out. Make sure to let him know that he is special too, and set aside days that are about him and what he wants to do (even if it means seeing an action movie or eating wings over beer you cannot drink). Not only is this a great way to make him feel good, but it’s also important in maintaining your relationship.
4. Let Him Get Away Your husband or boyfriend may be scared to ask you for some alone time, worried that you’ll feel abandoned. Let him know that an early night at a bar with friends or a long afternoon golfing with coworkers is okay. He probably needs some time to recharge and reboot, and giving him a little time away from your pregnancy and the baby may give him just that.
Jayde Johannsen adores everything about being a woman, which includes both being a mom and women’s shoes. Recently she published some work on women’s dress shoes. Enjoy.
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9 Comments on Even With a New Little Man in Your Life, Don’t Forget About the Big Guy: Preparing Your Man for Fatherhood »
May 4, 2011
Twitter @ 8:23 pm:
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May 28, 2011
Hettie @ 6:05 am:
Why did you CHOOSE to spend your time asking about what motivates others? I never thought about my motivation for solving Sudoku puzzles. I suppose every activity one engages in has motivating factors to them. I enjoy sudoko puzzles, just as I enjoy meditation, crocheting, reading, listening to music and many other activities. I find that it is a brain healthy activity, that gets me out of thinking about my problems and the mess the world in is.
Does it make me feel that I am superior to others-no. But I am superior to myself before I started doing the puzzles. When I first started even the easy puzzles were difficult, now I can handle harder puzzles and, Yes , that makes me feel good. Just as I feel good when I have done a good job preparing a meal, making a quilt, crocheting a toy, helping a friend, answering a question or many other things.
I wonder why you CAPITALIZE so many words, I feel like I am being yelled at. Because I spend time-alone involved in thinking games I feel I am better able to do other 'more important things'. I am not stealing time away from more noble pursuits-I am embellishing them!
I hope than you can lighten up a bit, and enjoy yourself for just being you. I person who can spend time outside their normal comfort zone is a more relaxed person and much more fun to be with. As for me, I am going to submit this answer and do a puzzle-Sudoku at that.
June 11, 2011
Ryan @ 2:07 am:
Hey Levi
Are you including all the books you've read for school. If I had to include all the education articles I've slept through I'd lose count. I'm just about finished Stephen Lawhead's Hood and even though the Celtic theme he used all throughout his Arthur Trilogy is used again it is a nice familiar read.
July 2, 2011
CurranGoodman @ 3:18 pm:
Times: Embattled Congressman Now Expectant Father – NY1 –
July 7, 2011
John Peery @ 9:52 pm:
Pennsylvania State System of Higher Education Selects ConnectYard Social Media Platform –
July 15, 2011
Social Bookmarking Net | Published News @ 11:49 pm:
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September 2, 2011
Casey @ 12:03 pm:
In text citations are needed every time you take something from a source, whether you quote directly or paraphrase. In other words, if it's not something you already knew, you need to be quoting it. Direct quotes require a page number in the in-text citation, while paraphrases do not. So the in-text format for a direct quote is (author last name, p.XX, year) while for a paraphrased sentence it is (author last name, year). For more help I highly recommend this site:
ETA: If it is information you did not know before you read a source, you HAVE to quote it (whether you paraphrase it or not!)
October 27, 2011
Sooper Articles @ 8:42 pm:
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October 31, 2011
eastacademic @ 5:45 am:
I think it might be impossible to get rid of the dept of ed.
Its just massive, massive. The single biggest problem I foresee is the Title 1 issue. Case law has Title 1 a part of the fabric of education. I cant see any way to dismantle that.
Turning it over to the states may be impossible now.
Further, title 7 is associated with federal civil rights laws. Pull the dept, pull the funding, no?
I have no idea what he means – I suspect it is simply a political argument – not an educational one. Does he suggest that the funding for federally mandated laws will simply be moved elsewhere? – Form my reading of it – he is simply saying shut it all down – I dont see that happening.